You want my BBC? That’s so racist!

As a black gay man, I am constantly reduced to, racist stereotypes when online dating It’s hard to believe that not so long ago there was a stigma attached to using dating apps. Now, they are completely normalised among young people and can be a great tool to use in meeting potential romantic partners. But [...]

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Loving you shouldn’t hurt

Loving someone means you accept their apologies — but only when those apologies are meaningful. Loving someone means you accept their flaws, their quirks, and their baggage — but only when those qualities are harmless. Loving someone means you stick around and fight for the relationship instead of running away — but only when the [...]

Wow What A Asshole….

As I began to write this in my head I thought "wow you're really an asshole." I have spent quite a bit of time trying to be single. Any guy that came my way worth dating I immediately turned away.  And then there has been a few that I have been seeing but have made a concerted effort [...]

DAD KILLS 14-YEAR-OLD TEEN: ‘HE WOULD RATHER HAVE A DEAD SON THAT A GAY SON’

A father shot his 14-year-old gay son, with police attributing the murder in part to the boy’s sexual orientation. Henderson police in Nevada say 53-year-old Wendell Melton shot and killed his son Giovanni in the morning of Thursday 2 November. Sonja Jones is Giovanni’s former foster mom and said Wendell always had a thing against his [...]

Dear Black Parents, You Need To Stop Doing These 13 Things

We all know there are fundamental differences between raising black children and raising white children. But black parents really do some of the most bizarre and damaging things. Here is an incomplete list of things black parents really need to stop doing to their children. 1. Requiring us to contribute financially while we are still in our teen years [...]

Toxic Parents and How They Damage Their Children Without Realizing It

  There are all kinds of parents and parenting possibilities. Some are very strict and control every aspect of their child’s life, others are very chill and let the child make their own decisions and mistakes. It is most certain that although there are many different approaches, all parents want to do the best for [...]

Many reasons NOT to forgive….

I readily admit that there is a moral imperative to forgive; it is clear that forgiveness can be a powerful force of healing and reconciliation. However, I must speak out when the advice from blogs, articles, books, and spiritual one-liners treats forgiveness as a panacea for hurt, pain, and “moving on” to a happier life—with nary a thought given to [...]