An Oh-So Tired Christian

Dear Offended Christian, I’m terribly sorry that your feelings are hurt again. I feel bad about that. None of us likes to be criticized, so I totally get it. I know I’ve said some pretty hard words to you recently, and maybe I’ve been somewhat less than “cheery” in my delivery, but that happens when you’re tired. And I am really tired: …

Dear Black Parents, You Need To Stop Doing These 13 Things

We all know there are fundamental differences between raising black children and raising white children. But black parents really do some of the most bizarre and damaging things. Here is an incomplete list of things black parents really need to stop doing to their children. 1. Requiring us to contribute financially while we are still in our teen years …

Should I call him DADDY?

There are different types of couples everywhere—some call each other “bae,” some call each other “honey” and “baby,” and some men call their boyfriends “daddy.” Yes, it’s a thing. Some men actually call their boyfriends “daddy” during sex, but it doesn’t mean they have daddy issues or want to have sex with their father. Sex …

Many reasons NOT to forgive….

I readily admit that there is a moral imperative to forgive; it is clear that forgiveness can be a powerful force of healing and reconciliation. However, I must speak out when the advice from blogs, articles, books, and spiritual one-liners treats forgiveness as a panacea for hurt, pain, and “moving on” to a happier life—with nary a thought given to …