Loving you shouldn’t hurt

Loving someone means you accept their apologies — but only when those apologies are meaningful. Loving someone means you accept their flaws, their quirks, and their baggage — but only when those qualities are harmless. Loving someone means you stick around and fight for the relationship instead of running away — but only when the [...]

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That oh so heavy sleeve

Every time you get your heart broken, it becomes more and more tempting to change your ways. To stop caring. To stop trying. But you have managed to push through your abandonment fears. You have summoned the strength to keep thinking positive, to keep loving loudly.

An Oh-So Tired Christian

Dear Offended Christian, I’m terribly sorry that your feelings are hurt again. I feel bad about that. None of us likes to be criticized, so I totally get it. I know I’ve said some pretty hard words to you recently, and maybe I’ve been somewhat less than “cheery” in my delivery, but that happens when you’re tired. And I am really tired: [...]

Wow What A Asshole….

As I began to write this in my head I thought "wow you're really an asshole." I have spent quite a bit of time trying to be single. Any guy that came my way worth dating I immediately turned away.  And then there has been a few that I have been seeing but have made a concerted effort [...]

Just Walk Away Already

There comes a moment in life where you realize that the person you thought was larger than life was really just reckless… not brave. You thought they lived life. Really lived. Bold. Free. Unafraid. You know, unlike you. Now you realize that this was a lie you told yourself. You are the strong one. You [...]

Dear Black Parents, You Need To Stop Doing These 13 Things

We all know there are fundamental differences between raising black children and raising white children. But black parents really do some of the most bizarre and damaging things. Here is an incomplete list of things black parents really need to stop doing to their children. 1. Requiring us to contribute financially while we are still in our teen years [...]

WHY ARE MODERN BLACK GAY MEN OBSESSED WITH SEEMING STRAIGHT?

How many times have you seen the words “No Fems” on a guy’s profile and wondered if that applied to you? And how many times have you tried downplaying your “gayness” even when in the company of other gay men? For a lot of the modern gay black men, a big part of being gay [...]