I don’t want a man until I can mentally afford him.

The most important relationship we will ever have in our life is with our own self. The most important relationship we have in our lives is with ourselves. And even though we are the only ones who are present at every moment of our lives–from birth onward–this relationship can be the most difficult one to [...]

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Wow What A Asshole….

As I began to write this in my head I thought "wow you're really an asshole." I have spent quite a bit of time trying to be single. Any guy that came my way worth dating I immediately turned away.  And then there has been a few that I have been seeing but have made a concerted effort [...]

Signs You’ve Hit Rock Bottom In Your Single Life

Hitting rock bottom is never a bad thing because it means you’re on your way back up to brighter things — but when you’re a gay man who’s single AF, the process is daunting and occasionally even hilarious. It’s not just about bad dates and spending important events and holidays alone, either; hitting rock bottom in your [...]

How to move on from him when he has already moved on from you.

Change your ringtone. Find a new place to get loaded. Kiss a stranger and make sure there are witnesses. Focus on the details you can control; clean the gunk from the soles of your shoes. Degunk everything you can, as often as you like. Make a list of the things he kept you from doing, [...]

Insta-asshole

I recently returned to Instagram. The world of social media just got bigger. Now I have websites inviting me to look at the perfectly photographed lives of everyone I’ve emailed in the last century. Awesome </sarcasm>. Thank you, Instagram, for reintroducing me to my favorite ex-boyfriend, his gorgeous new boyfriend, and their impossibly cute new [...]

Unprepared

The day I decided to let myself love you, I prepared myself for the unraveling. I had tried love before, and I’d lost it, because I’d been too afraid to show up. I’d been too afraid to stand, walls and weapons down, and let myself be seen. With you, I resolved to pull at those [...]