Your Three True Loves

There’s an old saying that each person falls in love three times throughout their lifetime, and although this might seem like an old wive's tale (or an old husband’s tale!), when you scrutinize the details of the ancient notion it really doesn’t seem so impossible. Please read the specifics below and decide for yourself. #1: [...]

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I don’t want a man until I can mentally afford him.

The most important relationship we will ever have in our life is with our own self. The most important relationship we have in our lives is with ourselves. And even though we are the only ones who are present at every moment of our lives–from birth onward–this relationship can be the most difficult one to [...]

Wow What A Asshole….

As I began to write this in my head I thought "wow you're really an asshole." I have spent quite a bit of time trying to be single. Any guy that came my way worth dating I immediately turned away.  And then there has been a few that I have been seeing but have made a concerted effort [...]

Just Walk Away Already

There comes a moment in life where you realize that the person you thought was larger than life was really just reckless… not brave. You thought they lived life. Really lived. Bold. Free. Unafraid. You know, unlike you. Now you realize that this was a lie you told yourself. You are the strong one. You [...]

Signs You’ve Hit Rock Bottom In Your Single Life

Hitting rock bottom is never a bad thing because it means you’re on your way back up to brighter things — but when you’re a gay man who’s single AF, the process is daunting and occasionally even hilarious. It’s not just about bad dates and spending important events and holidays alone, either; hitting rock bottom in your [...]

Should I call him DADDY?

There are different types of couples everywhere—some call each other “bae,” some call each other “honey” and “baby,” and some men call their boyfriends “daddy.” Yes, it's a thing. Some men actually call their boyfriends “daddy” during sex, but it doesn't mean they have daddy issues or want to have sex with their father. Sex [...]

WHY ARE MODERN BLACK GAY MEN OBSESSED WITH SEEMING STRAIGHT?

How many times have you seen the words “No Fems” on a guy’s profile and wondered if that applied to you? And how many times have you tried downplaying your “gayness” even when in the company of other gay men? For a lot of the modern gay black men, a big part of being gay [...]