Dear White People Delightful Dive Into Gay Culture

Dear white people season 2 perfectly explores racism in the gay dating scene Whites only. Into chocolate. Chubby chasers. Rice queens. If you’re gay and not exactly the European standard of beauty, chances are you’ve seen one or more of these phrases on dating apps and floating around in the real world. Netflix original series Dear White People isn’t [...]

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Signs You’ve Hit Rock Bottom In Your Single Life

Hitting rock bottom is never a bad thing because it means you’re on your way back up to brighter things — but when you’re a gay man who’s single AF, the process is daunting and occasionally even hilarious. It’s not just about bad dates and spending important events and holidays alone, either; hitting rock bottom in your [...]

Michael. Thanks but, No Thanks?

Yesterday, I received a text from an unknown sender. It turns out to be this guy from a guy I haven’t been in contact with in years ago. After all this time he still has the biggest crush on me. Everything at work was going smoothly and well. Receiving a text from him made my [...]

WHY ARE MODERN BLACK GAY MEN OBSESSED WITH SEEMING STRAIGHT?

How many times have you seen the words “No Fems” on a guy’s profile and wondered if that applied to you? And how many times have you tried downplaying your “gayness” even when in the company of other gay men? For a lot of the modern gay black men, a big part of being gay [...]

I’m Bitroverted – I Go Both Ways

If you’re like me, you’re an ex-introvert. You can be outgoing, yet you desperately need your alone time. You can’t do that. You’re one or the other. No, this is how I am. And that’s how many other people are. But we’re often misunderstood. Take for instance, people often see me as completely, inarguably, extroverted because [...]

Many reasons NOT to forgive….

I readily admit that there is a moral imperative to forgive; it is clear that forgiveness can be a powerful force of healing and reconciliation. However, I must speak out when the advice from blogs, articles, books, and spiritual one-liners treats forgiveness as a panacea for hurt, pain, and “moving on” to a happier life—with nary a thought given to [...]

Tea and Time….

There are times where I sit at my computer or before a blank piece of paper to write something and nothing happens. My mind draws a blank. I come up empty. After a half hour of letting my mind wander from here to nowhere, I give up and return to doing what I was before. When [...]